wesayloud dresscode

In the 1920s, women wearing pants would have been shocking, however now it is the norm. My mom told me in the 1970’s, a male department head tried to impose a rule that female employees had to wear full makeup every day. They also wanted women who worked in the offices to wear skirts and […]

silent bias

We have a pretty good culture at work. Well, at least better, than in my previous company (although I might have a pretty low bar). This is a big firm and it has a set of mechanisms and rules to help when harassment happens and address it. Of course, the primary goal is to protect […]

How microaggressions lead to crimes

Sometimes what starts as a casual chat can move to microaggressions to all-out aggression. The term “microaggression” is usually referred to a commonplace daily verbal or behavioral comment, often unconsciously or unintentionally, biased slights and insults toward people of minorities. While microagressions are often discussed in racial context, it’s more than just race. Microaggressions can be based upon […]

What do you feel when your boss is a woman? It’s a weird question, right? Let me share the story that proves that for some people it’s not a weird question. A female boss with an ambition makes them uncomfortable. I’m a top manager in the company that provides software development services. As everyone knows, […]

I want to share my story about men who can be unfair to women in the professional area. I was a QA engineer and worked in IT industry. Everything started when I was assigned as the only QA engineer to a team with 6 developers + 1 project manager (PM). Given the fact that I’m […]

Like to many, traveling is my passion. I simply can’t imagine my life without it. And while some destinations look & feel amazing, I want to warn you about some cultural differences in gender relationship. For example, when my husband and I decided to go to Istanbul, Turkey, we thought we were prepared to meet […]

girl with trauma

When I ask myself whether I have a story to share here on She Says We Say, I start thinking about many small events here and there that cut me throughout my entire life – those are tiny paper cuts which I (and probably you too) try not to focus every day. Otherwise, it would […]

when do we quit?

I wanted to share a story that happened to me a few years ago, when I just started my career in technology as a software engineer. I got hired by an international firm developing products for mid-size businesses in the US. The team was ~15 people (I was the only female). I loved the product […]

“Me Too” (or “#MeToo”, with local alternatives in other languages) spread virally in October 2017 as a hashtag used on social media to help demonstrate the widespread prevalence of sexual assault and harassment, especially in the workplace. The phrase, long used by social activist Tarana Burke to help survivors realize they are not alone, was popularized by actress Alyssa Milano when she encouraged women to tweet it to […]